Suspense Thriller Metaphor

 

Merry Christmas, dude. I don’t know if it’s just me or is everyone also getting a real difficulty finding a good Christmas Movie this year? Anyway, I ended up watching “Die Hard,” the first one. Although the movie is a “one man kicks bad guys’ ass” kinds of movie, it was packaged in a Christmas theme nonetheless, ha-ha (yea, whatever…). It made me realize that, apparently, I do love to watch that kinds of movies be it 24, Die Hard, Hostages, etc.

Those movies are often involving several characters in common and I can name five of them. FIRST, there are the hostages, the ones who are helpless. SECOND, we have the reporters, whose purpose solely is to get the news. THIRD, there are cops, FBI, and whatnot who are standing outside the building and do the thinking. FOURTH, we have the perpetrators, the bad guys who are inside the building and getting what they want. LASTLY, we finally see the hero who is sneaking inside the ventilation pipe to rescue the hostages, from the inside; these are the Jack Bauer or the John McLane kind of guys.

What makes it cool to talk about these five kinds of peoples is that each of them actually represents our real everyday life situations if we look closer. Through the following metaphor you’ll see my point. And after that you can identify which people you do belong to.

[WORD OF CAUTION: by the following metaphor, I do not intend to degrade any of the professions mentioned. This is only my opinion based on the movies I’ve seen and some of my general knowledge. And the following should not be viewed as any medical or professional opinion whatsoever. For God sake, I’m just a guy!]

5. THE HOSTAGES.

These are the helpless people. They need (or at least feel that they need) help from others. They are generally portrayed as dependent on each other. They are afraid. They are confined of their liberty and often perceived as victims of the kidnapping.

When we look at our real life, those characteristics might be familiar, hell; we even might be one of them at a certain stage in our life. Sometimes we let social conditioning, others’ opinions of ourselves, etc define what we should do; therefore we are deprived of our freedom. I bet you can think of times when your parents decide what you should be or what you should do; when your partners tell us the dress we should wear, or when you blame them for your unhappiness (Oh isn’t this familiar…). Hostages are people who are acting like victims, love to blame everything on the situation, and afraid to act. These persons often are approval-seeking, and define themselves by how others treat them.

So, what’s the key here, what makes these hostages are different from other types? The key characteristic is they put the responsibility to take care of themselves in others’ hands.

4. THE REPORTERS.

This people are generally portrayed as some selfish dudes who are at the scene only to gather some news to sell. These are people who take advantage from the situations. Although their presence often does not produce direct disadvantages to others, especially the hostages, nonetheless they only think about their own interest in the process. They also do not really look at the deepness or the essence of the situation, instead, only the surface. Why? It is because of the urgency to take advantages as soon as possible.

When it comes to our real life, these are the value taker people in our lives. They only think about what’s in it for them, and then gone after they finish sucking value of any situations. Because of the urgency to take the values as soon as possible, sometimes they forget to look the situation deeper. These people often don’t live their life by code, and they don’t have any spiritual purpose to make the world a better place for living (I know, I know it sounds a bit “too much,” I’m kind of finding the right way to say it).

Apparently, even many kinds of the modern educational institutions nowadays teach these kinds of lifestyle, not to mention Law Schools (the one I’m in right now, ha-ha). “Tell others what they want to hear; don’t have to pursue your code/destiny/idealism blah-blah-blah… Take the money, and go,” that’s what we are often told to do.

The key characteristic is that “the reporters” kind of persons focusing their life on what they can take/suck out of this life, instead of what they can give.

3. THE LAW ENFORCEMENT DUDES (The Cops, the Feds, the Negotiators, etc).

These are the guys who feel that they’re the one responsible to put the situation under control. Why? It is because of their status/profession as law enforcement dudes. However, this kind of awareness sometimes produces ego, a lot of it, and it clouds their judgments. They love to interact with each other using the chains of command language, to show who is more superior to other. Even though they are working for the safety of the hostages, sometimes their ego clouds their view of situation and also their intuition, and makes it harder for them to decide the right thing to do. They’re also sometimes portrayed as the ones who are thinking too much.

In our real life, a university lecturer who loves to talk on and on about his/her great achievement for hours can fall into this category, along with the self-righteous scholar (or smart ass?) who loves to use magic vocabulary and terms more than is needed in order to convey his/her knowledge to the world. They strive for the sake of others, the nation, the world, or whatever, but they don’t realize that in the process they let their ego get in the way. And sometimes their ego (self-image) prevents them to take action because if they failed then their self-image towards others will be jeopardized, so they only brag about their achievements (the achievements they got when their conscience was still pure) and criticize the current situation. It is only natural for someone with such a huge ego to protect it.

The key to this category is, they use their skill, profession, talent, along with their ego, to do the right thing.

2. THE PERPETRATORS (The Bad Guys!).

Actually it is kind of hard to define what really the perpetrators are all about. It is because based on my research (in the forms of watching countless movies; of course), there are so many kind of bad guys. Therefore in this piece of writing, I’m not covering all psychological aspects of the perpetrators, only the essential parts.

Perpetrators basically are the ones who do what they think are right, in their point of view. It is often conveyed that perpetrators sometimes were initially good guys, but in a certain stage of their lives they became victims of something (be it molestation, their parents murdered, etc) and their lives have never been the same again from then on. Those kinds of thing put some seeds of hatred in their heart and actually made them bad guys who hate certain kinds of people, or even just anyone. They don’t care about others right, others life, etc…

When it comes to real life, the bad guys show themselves in the forms of manipulative friends or others. They have their own objectives. But in essence, they don’t care if by accomplishing those means hurting others in the process.

The key characteristic of the perpetrators is that at a certain point in their lives they were violated or even deprived of their own rights. And it grew hatred inside their hearts to make the situation even with the world.

AND FINALLY… THE HERO!

This is the coolest part of the movie. A Hero often portrayed as someone who has his/her own feelings, issues, and problems. In the 24, Jack Bauer has his own personal issues with his only child, kimberly, while doing his job. Also John McLane in Die Hard with his wife, Donnie Brasco with his family, and the list is endless. But the distinctive characteristic is that they do the right thing in spite of their own issues, and that really what courageous is all about! They also have high intuition, less ego, and affection towards humanity in general. So they are putting their life to protect others.

When it comes to real life, what a hard job it is, to find a person who is courageous, put his/her ego aside, and has the purpose of helping others. All my life (as I’m writing this one, I am 20 years old) I haven’t met a single person who fits the criteria directly. Fortunately, some of them show themselves in the forms of motivators, gurus, policemen, and whatnot, and they teach me a lot of things through the books, seminars, life stories, poems, etc. It’s just I’ve never met them in person.

The key of a hero is courage, doing the right things in spite of personal issues to make the world a better place!

 

 

CONCLUSION

“…The truth is, everybody is only doing their best with what they have in their lives… ” – Mike Dooley (The author of “Infinite Possibilities”)

I believe that the above quotation is so true, every single one of them, the hostages, perpetrators, reporters, law enforcement dudes, and the hero. They all have their own issues, and they all have choices.

You and I, too, have choices. So ask this to yourself, what will have you been by the end of the year 2010?

Until then, Merry Christmas, I love you.

 

Just a guy who is learning how to be courageous,

Ganda.

You Can Try These

 

You can be doing anything right now, but whatever you’re doing, and whatever you’re feeling right now, I promise that, first, you can try these now, and second, these will make you feel happier and more comfortable. So, for the sake of it, just try these… NOW (In case you’re wondering what the hell “these” are, “these” are some of the principles you can adopt right now, and I intended “these” to be some sort of new glasses you can use to see your life).

1. THE FUTURE AND THE PAST DON’T REALLY EXIST.

What?! No, really, the future and the past are just illusions you’ve been thinking about. What does exist, however, is the “now.” It’s like money; we’ve been taught that it’s only a matter of trust system as to why money has such value. Nonetheless it feels so real, and sometimes we feel intimidated by it, even though it’s just paper!

First, you have to know this. Several studies have concluded that your mind (which gives impulses/instructions to your body on how to react regarding any given situation) can’t really tell a difference between illusion/imaginary and reality. When you draw a picture of a hamster, you often smile while doing it, because your mind tells your body to feel tickled, even though it’s really just a picture. Same principle holds true when we talk about your boyfriend/girlfriend. Even the slightest thought about your lover cheating can make your entire day felt so uncomfortable. The reality is, it’s only in your mind, those things you’ve been thinking about, are not necessarily what really happens.

You can spend your “now” anticipating the future, or grieving about the past, or you can spend it living. You can choose to be afraid of the future, or to be regretful about what you did in the past, or… You can choose to be aware, to feel the air flows through your nose and soothes your body, and be peaceful.

But does thinking always do you harm? That leads to our second point.

2. OFTENTIMES, YOUR MIND DOES YOU MORE HARM THAN GOOD.

Say you’re in a cozy lounge hanging out with your friends. Suddenly there’s a beautiful girl whom you considered “your-type” hanging out with her friends across your spot. Now, what do you do? Do you approach her instantly, or do you tend to create reasons about why you shouldn’t approach? Things like, “wow, she sure looks good, but judging by her face I bet she has a lot of boyfriends,” kinds of thing. And what do you get after that? Nothing, not a chance to make her day cooler than before, see my point?

Second example, let say you’re in an audition, be it a singing contest, essay competition, and whatnot. While you’re waiting for your turn, you let your mind flows free. And you started to think about losing that competition, you visualize it in your head, you started to feel stifle and you go home soon after, without even trying. Again, see my point?

When you let that silly mind controls your day, it often paralyzes you. Why is that? Because using your mind means thinking. And thinking is your ego’s best friend. Don’t understand? Right, see the first example. Rejection is not something you want to experience, right? When you are rejected, you feel ashamed in front of yourself and your friend. See? Your thinking is like a bridge between your experience and ego. And what does it do in the present case? Preventing you from getting the result you want. This principle also holds true when we examine the second example.

So what do I suggest when it comes to thinking? I suggest that you control your mind. Don’t let it work when you’re not using it. Be in the present moment most of the time. Live it, love it. How? Well, I would suggest you use some kinds of meditation. But for now, for a sneak peak of happiness, you can try this. Take a breath slowly and deeply, feel the air flows through your nose, lungs, and diaphragm. Feel the beautiful presence of it, and just focus on enjoying it. Feel good? Yea! When you try it for the first times maybe the good feeling only last for several seconds, but it will expand as you use it every day.

 

One of Those Happy Kid,

Ganda.

Better Love, Better Life

How are you doing, feeling good? Good (whatever state you’re feeling right now, it is good anyhow), because today I want to share something. This is GOLD, but not an ordinary gold, this is a kind of gold which is unlimited, which means after I give it to you, you can give it to others, without being deprived yourself. So again, whatever you’re feeling right now, it’s not good, it’s not bad, it’s just a feeling… Let it go, release it, and take a deep breath …Humph… READY?!

In his book, Psychology of Achievement, Brian Tracy states that there was a study which shows, 85% joyful feeling people experience comes from their relationship with others, aside from any achievement in work, hobby, sport, etc. This emphasized a concept in my mind that relationship constitutes bigger role in society than we used to think it is. Unfortunately majority of people have no idea, what relationship, or furthermore how to love/relate with each other well. They put too much energy to pursue something that constitutes only 15% of the above-mentioned percentage. Maybe this is why most people are not happy.

When I ask people why they stay single, without the initiation to get any intimate relationship, like a romantic kind of relationship, the answers I’d get were something along the line of, “…I don’t know, just haven’t found it yet…” Or, for some people who are usually considered “more religious” by society, “…God hasn’t given me the right person yet…” My question being…

What if for several occasions in your life, apparently you did meet him/her, “The One,” that it just you didn’t realize it? Or,

What if actually God has given it to you, several times, through the course of your life, and something blinded you made you couldn’t see it? Or my favorite one,

If all of a sudden God would say this to you, “Hey, I think you’re a sweet person and good to have a relationship, what kind of partner would you want…WHAT ARE THE CRITERIA?” How would you answer that?

All of those problems exist because humph… two things… FIRST, YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. SECOND, YOU DON’T FEEL/BELIEVE YOU HAVE A CHOICE IN LIFE. Me? For me, I believe that everyone, including YOU and I, deserve to get the best, and only the best in this life. Life is abundant, put it simply, there is unlimited wellness in life for all people to enjoy and share. So, you might be wondering right now, is this going to make sense or is Ganda just wasting my time?

This is going to make a lot of sense, and I’m not going to waste your time… Onward we go.

(Notes: What I’m going to share to you is my personal opinion… These are what do work for me.)

I. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Wanting something without knowing what it is that you want is like working as an event organizer on an unknown project. It drains your energy, you don’t know what your job purpose is, and you don’t know whether you’ve already achieve it or not. I hope my sentences above sufficiently explain why it is such a bad idea. It is simply doesn’t work, period.

Knowing what you want in the context of relationship means, know what qualities/traits your future-partner has. Knowing which behaviors you can compromise, and ones which you won’t. Have standard on how your relationship going to be. And remember, when you find someone who is attractive physically for you, but you can’t tolerate some of his/her behaviors, it doesn’t mean that you are a failure nor is he/she, it only means that both of you are not compatible. That’s the best way to look at it, I think.

Let me tell you about my story regarding this point. Before I got to college I’d decided that I want to have a relationship. I want to try to have a healthy relationship because I admit I wasn’t very good at it in the past, I would go after girl after girl after girl. One week I would have a romantic and affectionate get-together with a girl and with another girl a week after. It was silly, and I wasn’t happy. So I defined my future-girlfriend as a sweet beautiful woman, affectionate, had learned English well, with energetic behaviors so that her presence would give a refreshing-feminine kind of energy into my life. The thing was I got it. Even though it turned out after sometimes that we’re incompatible together, it was all-right, I don’t regret every single second I’ve spent with her. Again, it wasn’t a failure; it was just that we’re incompatible together. After spending sometimes without girlfriend, meditating, having fun with my friends, and learning about myself more, I will be ready to have a new one.

I. START LOVING

What, Start loving?! It doesn’t make sense Gand, I thought you would say “start chasing,” “start hunting,” or “use these set of tactics.”

Believe me, after I got cheated by a girl 3 years ago, I’ve studied dating and psychology quite extensively, having read literally more than a hundred books and countless articles regarding those topics, sarging (If you know what it is), Neuro-Linguistic-Programming, many seminars and audio-books, you name it. And I am confident now to say that, for me, chasing doesn’t work!

But I have evidence that shows many of my friends do success at getting partners by chasing?!

By success you mean… what, exactly, having a relationship with someone who’ve already “thrown” him/herself at you? Or… having a relationship with an incompatible partner towards whom you feel strong aversions, but are afraid to leave because you feel so attached that if you leave, your identity -or should I say, “Half of you”- will be destroyed, and moreover you don’t feel that you are worthy to have better lover?

By success I mean… Happy. Period.

Aside from that… “Not success.”

I don’t want to go all Zen, Dao, The Secret, or any of those spiritual stuffs here to explain what happiness is, because there is even a whole book covers only that (I would recommend “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle), but know this, love is self-hypnosis, and your happiness is your own responsibility. Got it?

Hmm, yea… But why doesn’t it work, can you give me an explanation?

Yes, in fact, I will give you two. The first is philosophical one. A Jewish spiritual teacher, Lester Levenson, stated an obvious but great sentence. He said, “You can’t really sit down when you are standing, can you?” Yes, what he meant is that there are certain things which can’t exist at a same time. You cannot wanting a car so bad while knowing that you’ve already have it, right?

Well, so what?

Here is “so what.” My point is as long as you feel a need to be loved, you can’t have it, because wanting=lacking, and you simply can’t “want” and “have” at the same time! And when you feel that you are full of love so much that you want to share it to the world, you automatically open yourself to receive it, more and more, and that’s the only way. Comperende?

And what is the second explanation why chasing doesn’t work?

It does stinks and is silly at the same time.

First you make an imaginary hyperbolic perfect version of the person you’re going to chase, in your mind, without having sufficiently balanced information regarding that person.

Second, you self-hypnotize yourself each day about that person by thinking of him/her while simultaneously reinforcing the image you’ve made in the first step.

Third, under that hypnotic trance, you put the person in the pedestal, buying shiny expensive gifts, calling four times/day, while changing your behavior according his/her preference.

Yea, I know… It’s silly. And it’s creepy; imagine someone you know does that with you as her/his object. That person is a human being, guys. Even the hottest chick in any party pukes after drinking a lot. My point is not to encourage you to view that his/her value is lower than you, but for you to view him/her as a human being, same as you.

And for your info, I do advocate if a girl wants to approach a guy first, I think there’s nothing wrong with showing love. The problem is not with whoever approaches first, but with the method.

So, how to love?

Actually love is a skill you’ll have to learn, there are several books I recommend, but the first thing you should read in my opinion is “The Abundance Book” by Lawrence Crane. For men I also recommend “The Way of the Superior Man,” In which David Deida gives some of his greatest opinion about love in his book. And also, you need to learn the communication skills you need in order to be someone whom people enjoy to be with.

For now… Just know this…

• Love is giving, not taking.

The greatest feelings I’ve ever experienced are not happens when I taking something like affection, time, or self-esteem from someone. But rather when I give, when I share, when I help and care about someone.

• Change your way of thinking.

I know, knowing this stuff won’t guarantee that we’ll always remember to use the principle in our everyday life. Simply because the way media exposes us toward unproductive songs, negative news in the paper, moreover our society have put “the toxic” in our heart for so long in the first place which have stored those negative stuffs in our subconscious mind. So starts growing now, find resources, books, anything. Start improving yourself right now.

• Know what you want, and let’s have it.

Eventually you will meet someone who meets your criteria, and hopefully when that time comes, you have been comfortable and loving enough to share your world with him/her. REMEMBER, that person is not coming to your life to make your life better, but rather, to share the wellness of life with you, as a lover.

I hope you enjoy this article as I enjoy it when I’m writing this. I love you so much. You deserve to be happy. Good luck, and… See you!

Your silly friend,

Ganda.

GOD

God, I do believe in God…

But not in religion, I do not…

Personally, I think God is a divine entity within us… Full of bliss, full of mercy…

It is a blessed child who is sleeping peacefully in the temple of our deepest understanding…

It is an entity, which often clouded by our so-called “self” and “identity…”

Name? Personally I don’t believe that God has a name… (Allah, Jah Rastafaria, Elvis, etc)

Names are restrictive, labeling, limiting, filled by borders here and there, so lame…

So are religions, they are shallow, understandable, systematic, so humane…

I believe God is love, who wants us to love ourselves and others…

I don’t believe in converting ones/other’s religion…

Not so much as helping and caring others, so they can experience the devotion…

Helping loves, whereas converting is so approval-seeking and insecure…

Caring is pure, whereas converting is so religion-based, and again, shallow…

The purpose of this piece of writing is not to provoke your belief(s) or sense of self…

But rather, to help you and I realize… How great and divine God is…

Yes, God is great, He is (I’m sorry) better and deeper than any strict ritual people have ever made…

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This has been me, talking to myself… So, don’t bother be mad or arguing…

Because any time we’re spending on fighting… It’s better off be spent by giving…

Love y’all; wish you all the best…

The Dao of Hope

 

Silly Questions

 

“We argued the thing at breakfast, we argued the thing at tea, and the more we argued the question, the more we don’t agree.”-Will Carleton-

 

 

Hola, this is me back. You know I have a tendency to make long blog entry right? The good news is, that’s not going to happen right now. Why? Because I love you guys… Of course not, it’s just because I want to do it.

The following are silly questions I’ve never stopped to ask myself, because simply… I don’t get it, or never got it enough.

1. Why do people tend to make their life more complicated and miserable each day? (Applying credit card, useless membership, expensive, again… Complicated phone)

2. Why do we love to simulate ourselves rather than get a real life? (Playing games as a kind of hero for hours rather than be a hero of our own REAL life, choose smoking rather than developing the ability to be calm in any situation, etc…)

3. Money is not real right, we’ve learned in school that it is apparently just a “trust system,” in which a lot of people put their trust into that certain kind of paper… My question is, why does it felt so real? (oh hell, people even killing each other for this “trusted paper”)

4. If we want to run for president, usually we have to make plans about how we’re gonna’ be running our government in case we’re elected right, and in any country there are so many people that have different aspiration and view… My question is this, how come I’ve never heard any presidential hopeful SAYING NO towards a certain people aspiration? (hmm I even saw that one of the vice president hopefuls say that they’re going to defend the farmer groups in villages while on the other hand they promise to boost investments in cities, that was stupid, come on…)

5. Why smart people often get bad or average score in educational institutions? (I believe this point is as crystal as it can be, you’re probably one of the people I mentioned about)

6. I’ve watched quite many soccer matches, often when several or one player(s) don’t like a decision of a referee they gather around the ref and protested… My question is, has it ever occurred that a protest toward a referee make him change his decision?

Right you can answer now…

Competition (sometimes) Smells Funny…

“This smells funny, and I’m not gonna’ eat it…”-Alan Shore; Boston Legal-

 

 

Face it guys, we are living in a society, such f**ked up society, when we are told that we need reasons to love ourselves, we can’t love ourselves just the way we are (by the way, how many “we are(s)” have I mentioned?). From the first times in our lives, most of us have been experienced what Brian Tracy called, the conditional love, that is when our parents told us to do or not to do something with such threat that they were going to withdraw their love and affection unless we obey, you know what I mean? Something like, ”kid, do your homework or else your father gonna’ kick your ass!”… yea I made that up, but you got the idea right? Such treatment taught us something so NOT valuable in our lives, that we need to accomplish something in order to be loved by others, or more importantly to love ourselves? That concept is a bit bizarre, isn’t it? Yea, I know, it also made me almost vomit the first time I realized.

Now we’ve become grown-ups, so called mature people (maturity, something vague that we are really proud of but don’t really have time to find what the h**l is it… ) and without you noticing that concept of conditional love has been rooted in your bones.

Ok, ok, Now what is competition? One of the definition I found in the Encarta Dictionary is,

an activity in which people try to win something or do better than others Microsoft® Encarta® 2009. © 1993-2008 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

But for most of us, competition is a form of self-validation in order to find reasons to love ourselves. It’s funny thou’ how people, including me, trying to love themselves by ambitiously, if not blatantly, hammering their ass to win something, by the virtue of loving themselves.

Funny Things about Competition…

One of the great things I’ve learned in life is that, people are like oranges, you find what they are really about by squeezing them. That statement came from a man whom I respect so much and consider him as one of my mentors in life. And often when being squeezed, people act like clown, I mean funny. They compromise their value, sleep with the jury, bribe the referee, punch the referee when they don’t like his decision… anything, ridiculous.

Funny things about competition itself, which make it smells funny, are:

1. IT CHANGES PEOPLE… Apparently I don’t really know which one is true, but competition does one of these things, either (a) changing people, or (b) showing the true nature of people. But since I’m a nice person and love to assume that everything is beautiful, great, and so forth (like you do)… I picked the former. We both know

about this, and I think we have experienced this on some point in our lives, we see this often in the field of politics (yea I know some people say politics is bad, politics full of deceiver, blablabla… I now liberate you by saying that, IT IS HUMANE), when friends become enemies, girlfriends become ex-girlfriends, you name it.

2. IT SUCKS YOUR LIFE INTO IT… Even some of the most tough-personality men throughout history, and in movies too of course, have shown us examples that their lives become unbalanced and self-destructing, losing their loved ones, and so on and so forth. Marcus Cicero lost his wife, Sebastian Stark lost his… wife too, Michael Jackson lost his real nose…(what are you laughing at, that’s not funny)… They simply give their lives to the competition.

Ok This is The Last Thing…

Ok, so let’s make this crystal, there is nothing wrong in joining any competition. But I think there are so many wrongs about the way our society views “a competition.” Really, I think it is a cool thing to win a competition, it’s just, you become funny (“funny” as in clown’s funny) if you do it in order to win. If you do it in order to win, you will lose eventually and that sure is sucks, and you become clown too as an added bonus. If you do it to win, you will feel like a s**t when you’re losing, and in order to prevent losing you will most probably be a b**ch of life. If that’s the case, even if in the real world you win, you lost nonetheless (to your own sorry ass).

So you’re probably yelling at me, “GandZ, what does your brain think about the correct motivation behind joining any competition?”… Well, I don’t know either….

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No, I’m just kidding. Imagine this, what if you and I just thinking about learning, learning, and learning in any competition? Will we ever be losing?

Because I really think that successes are just side-effects of learning, and for an added bonus, you won’t be looked like a clown if you’re just learning, and not trying so much to win like a fool.

And yes, there is no word “lose” in the dictionary of a learner, unlike in the winner’s.

Any problem with my thoughts?  See you later.

 

A learner who’s always “not that smart.”

Ganda.

Women, Love Them or Hate Them?

As the title stated, we’re going to talk about the most phenomenal, beloved, outstanding, dazzling, and stupendous topic of all time the world has ever known. Both women and men do love this topic, which I still wonder why so (if you don’t believe me, go find yourself a couple of magazines for women and men apiece, and tell me what you find there the most). For centuries, things about women have been significantly affect the happening on our world. There is even a saying that women inspire men to create wonderful works of art and architecture, and then distract them from even completing them.

I know, some of you would say,”cut the c**p, I wanna’ see sexy picz rite naw’…” ok, here you go…

[taken from http://www.gozakynthos.gr]

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Done?

But apparently, I am afraid I am going to have to tell you that we won’t see much more of that this occasion, but don’t cry. If you need some of “that stuff” I think I am pretty competent to tell you where to get those, after all, who isn’t?

Ok, I tell you what, in this entry I will give you some opinion about women, some of which are quite harsh (especially ones that come from those misogynists) and some from the “lovers” end of the spectrum. And since this is my blog, of course I will give mine, and since I’m such a generous person, I will let you write back your own opinion about women… No, of course I’m really curious to hear it from you!

Women in Misogynists’ Perspective (Warning, you might be uncomfortable reading this…)

For thousands of year, and by saying that I really mean it, women have been indisputably source of distracting force among men. In the Chinese’s famous history of The Three Kingdoms, we have seen evidence that proves my point. In the bible we have seen several cases which also prove my point. I’m not saying that being the source of distraction is the sole cause of the existence of misogynists, bear you, I’m just trying to give you the idea… You get the idea, right? And oh yea, misogynists are group of men who hate women by the way, Carlos Xuma referred them as “women-hating dinosaurs” in his book, The Secret of Alpha Male (It’s a great s**t you should read it by the way).

Kay Ingram, one of the misogynists

Following are some quotes and chunks I’ve gathered regarding the misogynist view on Women:

• - “..A woman preaching is like a dog’s walking on his hinder legs. It is not done well; but you are surprised to find it done at all…” – (Dr. Saml Johnson)

• - “..A fine lady is a squirrel-headed thing, with small airs and small notions, about as applicable to the business of life as a pair of tweezers to the clearing of a forest…” – (George Eliot)

• - “..Foolish and wretched is the man who builds his happiness on the frail and unstable affection of a woman…” – (Leland)

Disturbing aren’t they? Yeah, I agree they are, but nevertheless we can’t deny that they do have their point. As I said, history has proven some of their points. And it is said by a person whom I forgot; one of the reasons why misogynists exist is because of the fear of women. It is so true by the way; I’ve seen some of the great examples of this theory, even in my own life I’ve seen my boy-friend(my friend that happens to be a male,… of course) who turned misogynist after being rejected several times by women, then they hate women in order to rationalize their fear.

Women in Their Lovers’ Eyes

Humph… now we arrive at the sweet section. Even though I stated before that the misogynists do have their points, women are, with no slight of a doubt, beautiful and nurturing human beings. David Deida said in his book, The Way of The Superior Man, the feminine energy (which according to him is generally the core of any female being) is refreshing, moreover he said that life itself is feminine, that’s why female is the source of care, love, and life (unless you’re a dolphin you’d agree if I said that human babies come from human females right?)..

Giacomo Casanova

One of the sources whom I always like to listen to regarding the topic “loving women,” is Zan Perrion, who considers himself as the modern day Voltaire, despite the validity of his claim his written and spoken material are great nevertheless. According to him, women are not our (men’s) enemy; women are the source of love and caring, all that so-called feminine energy. But he doesn’t deny that in order to receive all the gifts women have to offer, as guys we have to learn how to unlock our masculine gifts as well (don’t have any idea how to do it? Well, I’m not saying that I’m good at it but you can e-mail me for the resources regarding this topic), this concept is furthermore reaffirmed by David Deida.

Women in my world

Now we arrive in this section, my favorite section where I get to talk. Now in my perspective, women are lovable, they are cute and sexy. So if you asked me if I love women, I’d say I do, seriously. But the thing about women is… They are dangerous, if you play it loosely. And the followings are my random thoughts about this topic, maybe they are relevant, maybe not, as I said, these are random thing that jumps out of my mind as I’m writing this…

1. Women are beautiful, yes, but “love business” is a totally different story…

What? How can it be? Yes it is, my friend. In fact, it often gets ugly, and we both realize this deep in our heart as men. To put the beauty of feminine energy and loving them (“love” as in relationship term) in a same place is a mistake, and it often can lead to disappointment, and moreover hatred of women. Women are beautiful, BUT LOVE IS AN ART, WHICH NEED PRACTICE, EXPERIENCE, AND SKILL, and the most suitable place for those who rationalize and justifying their laziness to learn about loving someone is, I’m afraid, hell. It so Different, different…

2. It is not necessarily a good idea to be 100% with them…

Let see, if you consider yourself as a smart and intelligent guy (like I do), you might have experienced this kind of s**t. You met someone who is attracted to you in the first place; she’s beautiful so you think there’s no harm whatsoever to let her came in to your life. At first it was good, you played it well and her attraction grew and grew. And then because of the great things she’d done to you, you think, “whoa, she’s so cute and harmless, and she’s really good at making me happy, why not show some vulnerability, I want to show her that I love her, after all… Why not? Look at her, she’s really innocent and (again) harmless. ” And then, bad things started to happened, suddenly you felt like she’d lost her interest towards you, you wondering why it was so, and soon you became needy, not too long before you got desperate, she left, you suffered… The attraction mechanism in a woman is running without her conscious awareness, folks. So my point is, she can’t even control herself regarding the mechanism (and lots of other things in her right-brain too,… I’m not saying left-brain, all right), discoursing this topic alone can be so time-eating. So, if you’re thinking about giving your power as a man,… Just don’t. No one in this world can guarantee about her attraction towards you, even herself, and by the way… WHY THE HELL should you?! You’re much more cool and exciting to be with when you use all of your faculties and be yourself!

So that’s it guys, what do you think?